How To Avoid Burnout

I wrote the book on How To Overcome Stress and I wish I’d have had this in 2013 when I reached total burnout.  Burnout can be scary, it’s debilitating and sadly too many people are reaching this point.  I’m delighted to be hosting a webinar for PWN on how to avoid burnout, but as it’s such an important topic, thought I’d also get something out on the topic.

Kelly SwinglerIn 2013 I spent months in physical pain, exhausted, drained and struggling to get through each day. But I didn’t want to stop, I didn’t want to give in and I kept on working, pushing and trying to prove I was ok.

But who was I trying to prove it to?  

Everyone around me could see I was struggling.  When you’re in so much pain that you can’t walk properly, have no strength and can’t focus properly – the only person I was really trying to prove anything to was myself.

I got to the point of burnout for a number of reasons:

  • I’d changed roles and started to work in London. 1 hour and 48 minutes (on a good day) daily commute
  • The organisation I had moved to was a culture-shock-and-a-half from where I had come from. But I was now HRD and convinced I could change it all!
  • Six months after starting in my role, I had a new boss who was as much help as a chocolate teapot
  • My role had been the last role in the structure to be recruited, and neither the structure, nor a lot of the team, were fit for purpose
  • The business was trying to do too much – I was involved with three major projects in addition to the ‘day job’ on top of nine other projects that needed my input
  • The business was demanding
  • HR didn’t have a voice
  • The Exec team were only interested in themselves
  • I was being stabbed in the back by two of the external consultancies
  • It was my first HRD role
  • Working from home was guilt-ridden and you were always made to feel that if you took a breath you’d be accused of not working
  • I was responsible for ‘the culture change project’ – that we all know isn’t a project

Stressed and Close to Burnout

Despite all of this, I hadn’t realised that I was stressed. I made a fatal assumption that the six-figure salary justified the ten thousand things I was trying to juggle at once, along with the level of responsibility that had landed on my plate. Every day I tried to make progress.  Moving one step forward and taking two steps back.

My brain only functioned properly when I was on the train. The only time-of-day that I could sit and breathe without interruptions. If the train was delayed on the way home, I was always grateful for a bit more time to process my thoughts and communicate properly with my team.

I’d like to say that what I experienced was an isolated incident and perhaps it was just me that hadn’t coped well in the role.  But this isn’t true.  Three of the people who had been in the role before me had all suffered, and ultimately left, due to health problems caused by  the relentless role (nobody told me this until I had left). And sadly, my replacement died, in her sleep, whilst attending a leadership development event.  Now, I’m not saying that’s directly related… but it does make you think, doesn't it?

Having had to undergo two operations in 48 hours because of the physical issues that the burnout had created in my body, I knew something had to change. I knew I had to do something to stop anyone else in HR ever having to experience this in their life.

I took a lot of steps to help myself and I use much of this now to support HR and leaders. It is possible to create an organisation and a life where burnout is non-existent and your people are happy. Here are the four things to consider:

1. Trust

Organisations where trust is high, have lower levels of absence, staff turnover and stress. If you can keep these low, you’re onto a winner. 

If you’re trusted to do your job, trusted to communicate effectively, trusted in your decision-making ability and trusted that you’ll do what’s needed to get the job done; as well as being trusted to take a break and speak up if you need help – burnout can’t fester. Burnout can be like a fungus that grows in the damp and dark, slowly taking over. At first it’s hidden but then it spreads and it’s a nightmare to get rid of.

Trust is a fundamental part of successful relationships, great communication, and business growth.

The more trust you have in your organisation, the happier your people and the less burnout there will be.

2. Talk

Time to talk can sound like a bit of cliché but talking really does help with happiness and avoiding burnout.  But I mean Honest, Open and Transparent conversations (H.O.T). Culture plays a big part in this happening effectively.

We’re not really taught to have H.O.T conversations, are we?  We’re told that we need to be kind, and consider the feelings of others and not say anything to hurt anyone and only speak if we have something nice to say.  But life doesn’t always work that way.

Stress, depression, anger, frustration, sadness and loneliness can all stem from our inability to speak to one another honestly.

It’s unkind to not be honest, it’s unkind to not be transparent and it’s unkind to not be open.

So, we can all talk. It’s the effort to make it meaningful that creates happiness and allows people to say how they truly feel and what they really need in order to help avoid burnout.

3. Simplify

Keep it simple (stupid) as the saying goes.  And I couldn’t agree more. I’ve been in this trap and I see it so often with so many of our clients.  We try and overcomplicate things; thinking it will make us more successful, look more intelligent and help us prove our worth.

The ‘intelligent’ ones among us, are those that can keep things simple.  Those can take a step back, look at what to stop and stop it!

“That’s not working”, “Stop it then”.

We try to do too much, and this causes us to procrastinate, panic and not make any progress. In turn, this causes us to feel like failures.  This then impacts our self-esteem and confidence, and anxiety grows.  Anxiety can lead to stress and or depression. We stop sleeping and all of a sudden you feel like you’re in a pit of despair and you don’t know how to get out.

Simplify your systems, your processes and the way we communicate and grow to develop the way we work; this works at home as well.  Clear the clutter, keep your wardrobe simple – Say NO to the meetings that don’t work.  Be clear on what is a priority and what isn’t. Keep things simple - genius!

4. Relationships

Whether it’s your colleagues, your wider network, your family or friends, surround yourself with people who share your values, your ethics and the life you want to create.  Those that expect you to keep pushing for their own gain, or don’t acknowledge when you need time out, are not good for your health.

Back in 2013 I was surrounded by a lot of people who were all close to breaking point but nobody spoke out.  I didn’t realise I was stressed, those closest to me did and I ignored them.

Brené Brown talks about having a square squad, the people in your life whose opinion actually matters.  My square squad were being ignored and instead I focused my time and attention on those who didn’t matter, those who weren’t important and those who are no longer in my life.

Work out who's important, give them permission to call you out and make you take a break if needed, and know that when this happens they are doing this for your own good.

By making the changes to my life; my business and at home, and through helping clients to create organisations that have trust, H.O.T conversations and simplicity – we really can do things differently and help to change the world of work.




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